How to turn small talk into smart conversation

A must-read for all you Socialites out there! Enjoy

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Tips from a comedian and a journalist on the art of going from small talk to big ideas — all summer long.

Imagine almost any situation where two or more people are gathered—a wedding reception, a job interview, two off-duty cops hanging out in a Jacuzzi.

What do these situations have in common? Almost all of them involve people trying to talk with each other. But in these very moments where a conversation would enhance an encounter, we often fall short. We can’t think of a thing to say.

Or worse, we do a passable job at talking. We stagger through our romantic, professional and social worlds with the goal merely of not crashing, never considering that we might soar. We go home sweaty and puffy, and eat birthday cake in the shower.

We stagger through our romantic, professional and social worlds with the goal merely of not crashing, never considering…

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6 thoughts on “How to turn small talk into smart conversation

  1. Scott Danzig says:

    Was feeling awkward, checking out your blog from the meet n’ greet and seeing a lot of makeup stuff. But then I found this gem! Followed! Totally like the Pearl Harbor comment. I’d probably suggest that a cloud probably is hiding an armed UFO, but either works.

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      • Scott Danzig says:

        It’s something I’m going to, and subconsciously have been, working on, in social situations. I really hate how unrewarding small talk is, and love personal stories. Going to meet a bunch of online friends in a couple weeks, and soon going to my first screening at a film festival, so I’m going to keep this mentality in mind for sure.

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      • Wow! Please let me know how that film festival goes..sounds fun! Im also working on social situations…im so bad with small talk..its sounds awkward! But i used to immerse myself in books and writing, that I completely left ACTUAL HUMANS out 😮

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      • Scott Danzig says:

        It went well, although I didn’t have much chance for social interaction. Hanging out with my friend Zack, who is a master at conversation. Went into a couple of places for food and drink. He guesses the man that served us coffee was a dancer, and he was… he encouraged him to get back into it, and asked him for an email if he ever did. Then at a Greek restaurant, asks the waitresses if they’re artists, and they both were. I think he wants to commission one that does inflatable art (http://colettealiman.com) to make an inflatable sofa for him. Fun times. I stick to at least being approachable and friendly.

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